Messy room

My daughter’s room is a mess. I’m trying so hard to not let it bother me because I’m working really hard on changing my reactions to re-build our relationship. I want to focus on what really matters which is our interactions but her messy room is so distracting.

I really believe that by not pushing her to fully clean it then it’s a life skill shes not being taught. But nagging her about constantly, damages our relationship.

I know our relationship is more important. How can I let the messy room go to focus on what’s important.