Hi, could you please review my UM model? Could the R line be both?
C: I sent Liz a text message.
T: Maybe she doesn’t like me.
A: I keep checking to see whether she responded to me. When she does respond, I try to assess whether her response was positive/negative. I think about how if she did like me, she’d have responded differently. I try to be extra nice whenever I message her.
R: I prove to myself that she doesn’t like me (since I’m looking for evidence of that). OR, I give away my power to her for the way I want to feel (in this case, secure regarding our friendship).