Unintentional Model:
C Time with extended family
T husband is irritable, rude, offends his own parents or mine
F pissed off resentful
A stew/ don’t make plans with extended family
R no connection or memories made with extended family

Intentional model
C Extended family
T We can spend time together
F confident, compassionate
A request of husband baseline of how to interact / offer anytime escape for him as he needs
R time banked together with extended family.