Model Help

I’m having trouble connecting my R to my T in this model.

C-my Son (age 5) tells his younger sister (2) to do something he know she should do (this is a frequent thing and we have a rule about it)
T – He should listen/get this rule by now.
F: Frustrated and Mad
A: Send son to room, think about all of the times he doesn’t listen, am less patient with other instances.
R: I create a disconnect in our relationship.

I can’t find a way to connect the T and R and could use some help.

In terms of the intentional model, I’m exploring thoughts like “he is learning from testing” and “I can control how I show up”. Other suggestions welcome. Thank you!