Model Help

I find that I am easily annoyed and defensive when my husband asks me to do things and checks up on what I have done. I do work for him and I am not affected as much at work. But any where outside of work I am so bothered. I don’t see how my result is evidence of my thought. Here is the model C: brett asks me to do something T: I am busy do it yourself or he is so bossy and controlling F: annoyed defensive A: don’t smile, act annoyed, do request resentfully, argue about it, avoid him R: 1. I do it resentfully 2. I tell him no(not often) 3. Annoyed feeling about him. I just have not figured out this process yet. Any suggestions?