Model help for R line

I gave money to help out a neighbor who needed it. They tried to repay me but I didn’t want the money back. My dad took the money and kept it.

C: dad took money
T: my dad is selfish because he took donated money and kept it for himself
F: anger
A: look about how it happens, complain to my sister, tell people, put a wall up between my dad and I, think terrible thoughts about my dad
R: ?

The coaching calls say that r ties back into the t but I don’t see how I’m selfish in this situation. The result I would put is our relationship is further strained but it was strained before this.