I wondered if you could give me some feedback or suggestions on this pair of models, or how to think about this in general:

Model that happened with negative thoughts:
C – plan was for zooms-giving, but mom invited my sister and her family in person and I found out when I joined on zoom
T – they know what they are supposed to do but they’re flaunting the rules selfishly
F – angry, disheartened
A – give family a lecture on what is going on now in hospitals with understaffing and tell them I can’t even watch and turn off zoom
R – lots of angry family emails and texts thereafter to me, while they go on about their thanksgiving gleefully

Ideal model
C – plan was for zooms-giving, but mom invited my sister and her family in person and I found out when I joined on zoom
T – i planned for zoom, i don’t support in person. tell family my reasons succinctly without emotion and tell them that I don’t believe in supporting this event so I am going to leave
F – even keel, in control, empowered
A – not waste energy being angry, turn my attention back to enjoying thanksgiving with my husband
R – be able to not let it shake me or affect me