Hey Brooke! Working on a model on my divorce (to clean up negative thoughts about it) and had a question.
My unintentional thought model is:
T: My divorce was nasty
F: Mild anger, angst when thinking about it
I wasn’t sure what to put into the A or R line – because other than “Mulling over how nasty it was” or “mentally reliving the ‘worst’ parts of it” – that’s the only A that pops up. And the R seems to be more feelings (Regret).
My new model is:
T: My divorce was an incredible blessing at the perfect time, because the last 13 years have truly been phenomenal!
F: Super Happy!
My A here would just be to “visualize how everything actually worked out during the divorce perfectly” – and the R would be… another feeling?
Not sure if I’m mixing models here – or there doesn’t need to be an A and R in this model (since I simply wanted to change the feeling – and it’s not like I need to take an action based on my feelings about a divorce).
I feel great about the divorce now – but figured I’d use this as an opportunity to figure out how to do a model around this type of an item in the past. Thanks! 🙂