Model question


It would be great to get your thoughts on the models below. I am struggling to make the intentional models really stick. The unintentional model is definitely not one that I am proud of.

Unintentional Model
C my brother gets engaged
T that’s wonderful but I feel like a failure as I am not in a relationship
F panic, shame
A hide from myself and others
R I make myself a failure

Intentional Model
C my brother gets engaged
T I am finding this hard but I will work through it
F compassion
A speak nicely to myself
R I work through it

Or

C my brother gets engaged
T I love my brother and I am happy for him
F love
A show up for him
R I generate happiness