Model Question – husband, clutter


Husband fills kitchen table with items. I reserve a place setting that says, “my space at the table.” Husband puts items on top of the place setting.

C: items placed on reserved spot
T: H does not respect my space
F :annoyed
A:say something to him, move his stuff
R: repeat

C: same
T: I don’t have any space of my own
F: resigned
A: wait til he moves it, ignore it, ruminate over it
R: I don’t get my space

C: Same
T: His mother always told me, if there is a flat surface he will fill it up
F: leaning towards compassion towards his brain
A: wait until he moves it or I move it
R: still no space