Model Question on relationship issue.


Hi,
I like the model but get stuck, it seems so easy but it really is not.
I am having some difficulties, can you please help me?

C: Husband acts in certain behaviors.
T: I think husband should be emphatic and responsible for hurting my feelings.
F: Sad, angry, hurt, unfair.
A: I wait for him to “wake up” and realize he has been wrong.
R: More pain for me. Disconnected.

C: Husband acts in certain behaviors.
T: He will not change. I can accept him for who he is.
F: Relieved (of letting go of hope that he will change).
A: Stopping to hope for change.
R: Free from pain (caused by me) the disconnects still present but from a loving place.

Thank you.