Model re son and coffee table

Hi coaches

Could you please take a look at this unintentional model and tell me where to go from here?

C – I tell 8 yo son to ‘Stop using that toy on the coffee table, it might scratch it’; son continues to use toy on coffee table and says ‘shut up when told not to again
T – He is behaving horribly
F – Anger
A – glare at him; make threats/consequences; don’t stay unemotional; think why does this happen every day and feel sorry for self; not enjoy time together
R – I am behaving horribly and not helping situation