C – Partner spoke loud and used swearing words.

T – this is not the way I want to be spoken to

F – disrespected

A – match his tone and words, shutdown, cry, question the relationship, stay pissed off, withdraw.

R – Argue, Give him the silent treatment, ruminate on how I shouldn’t be treated this way, shutdown and disconnect.

I’m having a difficult time with an intentional thought because I am still feeling so angry.