Model w/ T: I want him to help me


Hi
I’d like your opinion on the following model – I’m not sure of the result line and would like a second “view” on it to help me identify alternative thoughts

T: I want him to help me
F: Expecting/ Needy (can expecting be a feeling ?)
A: Ask a lot of him, always make comments on things he does not do around the house. Expect specific response from him. Want him to do “what I want”.
R: I’m not helping myself / Never satisfied with what he does / Always in need

Also I can see this is a big thought for me and working on it will make a big difference but I have not found an alternative thought yet
The “I can help myself” or “I can support myself” type don’t “feel true”

Can you provide a second view to help me ? Thank you