Hi,

It’s been 5 months since I’ve joined Scholars and what empowering journey!

Recently, I’ve been experiencing something “curious.” When I talk to people, I see models pop up everywhere (my own models, but also the person talking to me model).

I had a similar experience when I was in therapy ten years ago, as I gained self-awareness, I was trying to tell everyone what they should do.

Now I have the model, I know (intellectually) that I don’t need to tell them what they should do or how they should behave. So I came up with a thought, every time I catch myself wanting to “coach” other people.

My thought is “They are allowed to think/do what they want”.

But here where it’s “curious.” I’ve been noticing this model.

C – People’s models
T – They are allowed to think/do what they want
F – Frustrated
A – Me acting like I am indifferent
R – Disconnected from the person

The feeling that I need to feel is (I guess) detachment or satisfaction as I want the result to be: “stay connected to the person.”

Can you help me figure out what I am missing here? A new thought? Or work on the current thought to feel a different feeling?