Mom’s Words

I had coaching on a situation with my mother. What I understand is that I have a manual for my mother, because I believe she should behave in a certain way. My question is where do I go from here? If I know she’s going to continue to trash talk me behind my back and my siblings . I don’t like it, and I realize that I can say this is who she is and have compassion for her because I don’t believe she even knows how to have a loving relationship. Seems like in a new model my T line would be I’m going to Limit my visits with my mom. F line would be healthy (taking care of myself, loving myself ) A Line would be General conversation. R line is still having a connection.