Mother-in-law


Hi Brooke! I have learned so much over the last few months. Thank you for sharing all this knowledge! 🙂
My husband and I have been together for over 30 years, married 28. In all that time his mom has been a huge pain in the arse! Her main problem is she extremely jealous. She can’t stand my husband loving his father (they’ve been divorced over 30 yrs) or anyone other than her. Over the last two years her jealously has become out of control. It has been so bad my husband was ready to cut her out of his life.
I have been doing a meditation class, and in there I have uncovered some of the likely reasons she is the way she is. I’ve discussed those ideas with my husband hoping it would help us be more forgiving toward her erratic behavior. I know we have to love her where she is. She gets to be who she is, even though I think it’s a sad way to live.
She hasn’t talked to me in over a year and I am SO OKAY with that. However, reading and listening to this months relationship work it makes me wonder if I need to fix this???
You ask how do we want to think about X person. This is where I’m getting hung up because the truth is, I don’t want to think about her. I can’t see myself being able to change my feelings toward her. She has said and done so many hateful things it makes it hard to think of her in a positive light. Suggestions??