Hi,
So somehow I have the belief that people who drive fancy cars (BMW, Mercedes, Tesla) are given a fancy car or buy a fancy car in order to make up for their jobs and life not being fulfilling. Such as stressfull jobs, lots of commute, excessive overtime.
As an entrepreneur I value my time freedom, and want to be a great husband and father. Working at home. Being available when needed (mornings, evenings). I feel like I have to give up being a great dad, in order to be able to buy the fancy car. Or maybe the other way around: buying a fancy car makes me no longer the best dad ever…
I know this is a belief, and a NOT a fact. Because I know there are people who work comfortable hours, live a great life and still have a fancy car. And I know that whatever car you drive has nothing to do with the quality of your fatherhood, or the work-life balance you have. But it is so much easier to see evidence that confirms my belief, rather than contradicts it.
So I did a model around this today as part of the november daily work:
Unintentional modal
C: A client of mine shows up in his Tesla. He often spends time abroad away from his family for client work.
T: He spends a lot of time away from his family. He may have a Tesla, but he has given up so much that is a lot more important
F: Mixed feelings, confused: Envy (I want a Tesla), Pity (I don’t want to give up what I think he’s giving up)
A: I put off buying a new car (Tesla isn’t in our budget, but we do need a new one)
R: We drive our crappy old citroen C2.
Intentional model:
C: A client of mine shows up in his Tesla. He often spends time abroad away from his family for client work.
T: That’s great for him. I’d like to buy a Tesla in a few years too.
F: Attracted to Tesla
A: Make money, buy Tesla
R: Drive awesome Tesla.
Now, the feeling is supposed to be 1 word. I’m getting mixed feelings. Do I have to dig deeper?
I see people who drive fancy cars online and they say they have a great life, but I don’t KNOW them enough to actually BELIEVE them. How do I replace my old belief with this new intentional thought?
Any other tips?
