My boyfriend and how to come from a different place

My boyfriend and I are both doing a lot of self-growth and thought work, but coming from at it in a different way. I am practicing the SCM and I am new to Scholars. He doesn’t know this process but is doing his own work. We both have improved BUT…. I think we are on the same page overall, but I find I want to explain my way to him (and him to me) which gets us into a funky place. Where I need help is knowing what to say. How do I do the model effectively?