First of all, thank you for the response to my last question! It was tremendously helpful and I have since been feeling such an inner peace as I practice just letting it all be. So thank you for that. 🙂
Okay so I have been seeing this guy pretty seriously for 5-6 months. I was happy, even doing a lot of mindset work in order to focus on being happy and secure in the blossoming relationship. And then I started being bothered by him not asking me to be his girlfriend and not brining me around anyone in his life at all (like church, friends, won’t tell family he’s dating anyone, etc…). I felt like that was a red flag so I started becoming very unhappy in the relationship. He broke things off this week because he is too stressed with work and doesn’t feel he can handle commitment (even though that’s all he wanted when we first started dating). So I feel really sad about it because I really love him and want to be with him. I’m now feeling bad because I’m thinking “oh shit! Did I mess up a good thing by not managing my thoughts well? Should I have given him more time like he said he needed?” Or is this one of those situations where it is valid because I want a relationship with someone who wants to be committed to me and I get to trust myself and do my models on that vs doing models on what has already passed?