I’m brand new this week to scholars and will start training for life coach certification in May. My husband and I will be divorcing-it will probably be about 2 years before we do this. I want to stay present, loving and healthy in the mean time. He came out to me as gay 4 weeks ago (we’ve been married 17 years) and we have things we need to do so we can make a financially responsible, conscious, respectful, split. When he came home from work this evening I felt the wind go out of my sails-I had been having a pretty good day until then. My feelings were “dread and weariness”. I plugged those feelings into the model and got this. I also did one with the circumstance, “my marriage is over.” Am I on the right track? Any feed back would be great. Thank you!

UM
C
T Husband sucks the life out of me
F Dread, weariness
A Moody, manipulative, not being true to myself
R I’m unproductive, drained of creativity and fun

IM
C
T Husband is not responsible for my happiness
F Happy, peaceful
A I’m more loving (to him and to me), true to myself
R I’m transparent, productive, fun

UM
C My marriage is over
T I will never be happy again
F Sadness, rejection
A I wallow in self pity
R I stay sad

IM
C My marriage is over
T I will have even more happiness and contentment waiting for me on the other side of this
F Happy, excited
A I use this time to get physically fit, I do my SCS, I become a life coach
R I have a happy, fulfilled life without my husband