My husband called me a cow

My husband called me a cow today.

Circumstance: He said “You are lazy, lay there doing nothing all day and are laying around. You look like a cow”
Thought: he is such an ass, I want a divorce. I run a multiple 6-figure business do everything for the kids and I have been up since 4:30 AM getting everything done.
Feelings: Angry, resentment, sadness
Action: Buffer with consuming content, food and work
Result: dont get a divorce

I am running this loop. I cant really find a better thought. Besides this my brain wants to go to confusion- is it a manual that I am not wanting him to say mean shit?

At what point is it no longer my thoughts about it and is it something that I no longer want for myself?