My husband keeps me waiting


My husband and I had a date scheduled and he is still not home and I went immediately from thinking good thoughts about him to “He’s such a jerk. He doesn’t care about me at all! He cares more about other people than he does about me. ” I have a lot of evidence around him keeping me waiting and giving what I see as preference to others. I am so angry right now. I know the model I know I can get to a good spot but I really believe the thought that he shouldn’t keep me waiting. I know I need ladder thoughts to get there. Ugh!!! Why is the human experience so incredibly difficult?

C – My husband and I have a date tonight at 5:00 . It is 5:17 and he is still not home and I do not know when he will be home.
T – He cares more about other people than he does about me.
F – Anger
A – swear in my mind and be angry with him and turn to SCS for help
R – I am still angry and I still don’t see my husband showing me love.

C – My husband and I have a date tonight at 5:00 . It is 5:17 and he is still not home and I do not know when he will be home.
T – He knows it drives me crazy when he is late so if he loved me he would be sure to be on time.
F – Anger
A – same as above
R – same as above

C – My husband and I have a date tonight at 5:00 . It is 5:17 and he is still not home and I do not know when he will be home.
T – I know my husband will be late so I will plan accordingly. It doesn’t mean he doesn’t love me, just that he is careless with time
F – frustrated
A – keep myself busy but still stew about him being late.
R- still frustrated

C – My husband and I have a date tonight at 5:00 . It is 5:17 and he is still not home and I do not know when he will be home.
T – This is who my husband is and I love him anyway!
F- love
A – I am excited when I see him and show him love and acceptance
R – we have a nice date.

What do you think?