My husband’s a narcissist

My husband has narcissistic personality disorder and I am at my wit’s end.

He is consistently saying that “his life sucks”, that “he never gets what he wants”. He has spent this whole weekend complaining, isolating and stressed out because his investments “aren’t going his way”.

I know I am in his model. I know that I am trying to control how he thinks, and make him see that it’s his thoughts that are causing all of this. I know that I try to convince him, and please him so he doesn’t act this way – which I know is a problem.

But each time he says his life sucks, I can’t help but internalize it. I make it mean that we (my kids and I) suck. I make it mean that he doesn’t see us and our value and won’t ever see it. I am making it mean that we will never be good enough for him, even when he does get what he wants.

I keep thinking about leaving because I’m so tired of this. It’s been 5 years of this, and I just can’t do it. I know the problem is with my thoughts and I know that I can change them, I just can’t see that light at the end of the tunnel and would LOVE coaching on this.

Thank you in advance.