My Husband’s Manual For Me

My husband has a manual for me and I don’t like the way I react to him trying to manage my emotions or manipulate me into following his manual. Concerns that I have, or anytime I feel a negative emotion he automatically dismisses it, or tries to avoid it in some way. My reaction is to feel misunderstood, disconnected and frustrated.

But obviously I am giving him way too much power over my emotions, and holding him to a manual as well. I’m having trouble recognizing what thoughts are causing me to give up my power and feel resentment towards my husband instead of love. It feels like the negative thoughts about him are so automatic now that I can’t seem to find a loving thought and I just feel defeated. How do I even begin a model about this?