my model

I had a house warming party last sunday and lots of people who agreed to come didn’t show up and didn’t even have the decency to tell me.
here is my model:

c: friend xy said they are coming to the house warming party and than i texted them when they come and they said: they aer not coming because they have to do some schoolstuff
T: how dare they do something this disrespectful
f: angry
a: write them that its not okay, talk about it with other people, being angry and annyoed
r: me finding reason to justify my anger

i just get so angry
and i feel like if i don’t and just give them love then they don’t take me seriously and do it again.
or i feel like i’m betraying myself if i’m to easy on them.

this has always been a problem