My mother is doing blackmail


Hi,

Here is my current model
C: My mother said to me ” If you don’t stay by my side I am going to kill myself”
T: I am the only one who can save her
E: Extremely tensed , over responsable
A: Escape my emotion with food, lie to my brother and sister to protect them, always saying yes to every requests of my mother
R: My mother depends on me and I do not have any energy for me anymore

Mi intentional model
C: my mother said to me ” If you don’t stay by my side I am going to kill myself”
T: She needs psychological help and this has nothing to do with me
E: Released, Calm
A: Have a conversation with her about asking for help, I set boundaries
R: Helping out my mother

This is weird because as she is my mother I experience a lot of shame with my intentional model.
I wish I could jump into this new thought but I feel like I am pushing her away by setting boundaries and protect myself.
I know she is suffering tremendously and I want to help her. But I am wondering is it my role ? As she gave me everything in life I have this belief that I should do everything she needed me to do and I know she does not one anyone else help except mine.
Thank you