My need for security


Dear Brooke and coaches,
Thanks so much for all you do. I am learning and growing as a person in ways I couldn’t imagine. One issue that I’d like to tackle is why I frequently become cranky, critical, frustrated and sometime angry at work with my team that I lead. I’ve written before that I think I feel like a victim because they aren’t meeting my needs. I’ve asked myself what needs are they not meeting and how can I meet them for myself. I’ve come to realize that it’s a need for safety, security, and certainty about the future. If they would just work harder and produce better results, then our jobs/careers will be secure and I could stop worrying about what will happen in the future. It’s like I want permanent security then I’ll be ok and can relax. So I think my work now is becoming ok with an uncertain future and to stop making others responsible for making me feel ok. Any suggestions on how to get started on this or where to take it next? Thank you.