Dear coaches

I’d love some help around anxiety and figuring out WHY I am anxious.

I feel anxious most days.

My life is wonderful. I have lots of Circumstances which I have positive thoughts about such as work, friends, life and goals.

I’m frustrated because I cannot seem to get to the thought/s that cause the F of anxiety.
There’s no ‘reason’ to be anxious a lot of the time.
I ask myself ‘what am I thinking’ and I really can’t seem to get there. It’s like I have a constant feeling that something bad will happen. Bad like what? I don’t know!

If the ‘worst’ things happened – get fired, have to leave the country I’m living in on a work visa, have a car crash or whatever, I know I would just handle it in the moment.

I don’t even think these things will happen.

Why is it a problem that I feel anxious? When I feel anxious I can’t seem to get on with my life. I can’t relax, do anything meaningful, and feel like I waste the days and nights. Often, I turn to alcohol and mindless tindering. Tindering is a verb now, right?

Here’s a model – I can’t even complete the model!

C
T
F anxiety
A can’t sit still, try and distract myself with tasks such as grocery shopping when I don’t need to, sorting clothes.
R

I have put Anxiety in the C line to see what comes up:

C anxious
T ARGH! I’m anxious again
F Anxious
A can’t sit still, try and distract myself with tasks such as grocery shopping when I don’t need to, sorting clothes, drink alcohol.
R Show myself anxiety is bad.

I know I should try and ‘allow’ anxiety but it feels so shit.

I want to be able to understand WHY I am feeling anxious.

Please can you help me?