Hi Brooke

I am in some intense painful thinking about a breakup from a long term relationship

I believe that when I get my perspective together great things will happen

Here are my unhelpful thinking patterns and I am wondering what alternatives you would propose

I cannot survive without him
I am terrified of angering him
I am terrified of severing our bond
If I sever our bond I will die
I need his love to live, to thrive, to do anything
I need his approval desperately

…I really am in the thick of it- I am feeling anxiety and fear in my gut

would it be bridge thoughts along the lines of

I am willing to consider that I can survive without him
I am willing to consider experiencing angering him and that I will be OK
I am willing to experience the momentary terror of severing our bond
Although I think/feel that if I sever our bond I will die, as an intelligent adult woman I know that is absurd.
I do not need his love to live, to thrive, to do anything
I may feel I need his approval desperately, but that is simply not true

do I need to create thoughts like this and practice them?

Thanks