Hi Brooke

My husband is outraged when I don’t answer my phone. He says it makes him think that he’s not important to me. I am often busy on another call or don’t hear it, I never deliberately ignore it and I always call back.
I’ve tried to tell him he’s making it mean something that it’s not. Just because I don’t answer phone, doesn’t mean I don’t love or care about him. The thing is, I’m never going to be able to answer calls all the time. I’ve tried explaining this and my reasons as well as affirming my love, but it doesn’t seem to make a difference. I also feel the need to stand up for myself. I can’t be at the mercy of my phone and his unhappiness every time I don’t answer. Could you help me with some thoughts please

C I don’t answer every call
T I shouldn’t have to always answer phone
F angry, pressured
A keep my phone on silent- don’t change behaviour
R keeps happening

New model

C don’t answer calls
T
F compassionate and loving
A take my phone off silent when we’re not together
R answer more calls than before

This doesn’t seem enough a result however. Maybe I need to do model on thought ‘he’s unhappy with me- he’ll never be happy- I’ll never be able to answer my phone every time’

Thanks for any thoughts