Not buffering revealing a not so pleasant side to me

I have been trying to be more aware of daily activities — eating/drinking/shopping — that I use to buffer uncomfortable emotions. I am fairly successful so far but find my emotions then to be irritation, frustration, anger, etc. I know that I need to deal with these feelings but I don’t know if anyone will like being around me so much while I go through this. I’m a people pleaser and hate to cause friction but I don’t want to just drink wine to ‘be nice’.