On Beauty

Dear Brooke, Sometimes I live a painful model that looks like this:
C: My face
T: I look bad. I’m old. Nobody likes the way I look. My kids will be embarrassed.
F: shame, guilt, sadness
A: keep to myself, lower expectations, self-pity, drink to not feel shy
R: live a smaller life, less joy
I’m not sure what to do with this. Part of me believes looks shouldn’t matter and this is shallow. Part of me just wants to go out and get a facelift & makeover & spend lots of money on looking good. I think I remember you saying desires are like a GPS. But what if the desire is just something we literally can’t have?