Other People’s Models

I’m starting to notice other people’s models in which they people please or do things they don’t want to do because they “want to be a good friend” and should on themselves and do things from guilt. And I am not sure how not to make it mean something about me or our relationship. I think I start to wonder if they are really genuine or if our relationship is real. But I can also see how I could just hold space for them being human because I do those things sometimes too and they don’t have this work and they’re doing the best they can. How do we not let our awareness of these patterns impact our relationships?