Overeating after events that I think I have little control over

I’ve realized that my episodes of over eating or bingeing occur in line with times where something has occurred in my life that I think I have no control over. For instance – if my children are sent home sick from school or some nonsense occurs in my family of origin.

I’m not entirely sure of the thought that underlies the relationship between this context/behaviour but whatever it is, I need a new one. Do I need to know the thought driving the behaviour to change it? In my model, I’m trying to shoehorn thoughts that give me a sense of control over the context but they don’t feel genuine and they aren’t resonating. When I try thoughts that acknowledge my lack of control over every eventuality, always, the urge to overeat hits even harder. Help?