parenting


Hi Brooke,

I’m loving the model calls…it is so helpful for me to watch you do models on other people’s problems. Its helping me understand how to use it on myself.

I was just watching one where you were coaching a mom regarding her teenage daughter’s negativity. You put fascinating in the feeling line. I don’t have teenage daughters but I do have twin daughters who are 8 years old. My twins are a constant tornado, between crazy anxiety and fighting and bickering…it literally never stops. I totally understand that my thinking around this behavior is negative and also making me feel awful and depressed. I also understand that I have a manual for both of them…they should do what I ask, they should behave, they should be kind, etc. Clearly that’s not working for me. But as parents our job is to mold and shape and guide, so I don’t really get how just letting them be who they are helps in that process. Shouldn’t I expect them to do as their told, to be compliant to my requests to clean their room, take a shower, etc?

Any advice would be great. I also remember in a past question you mentioning someone who coaches on parenting..if you wouldn’t mind including that info that would be great.

Thank you.