Passive agressive

Has Brooke done a podcast on passive aggressiveness? Or are there worksheets or a lesson in the study vault I should listen to? My husband keeps telling me I am passive aggressive. I am trying to come from a place of curiosity and not feel defensive. I see how some of my behavior might be passive aggressive and I want to change it, but I am questioning if I really am . I don’t like confrontation, I’m not very assertive, I don’t feel comfortable expressing anger, I try and pretend I’m okay when I really am not). I also see how he shows signs of being passive aggressive (not answering, not following through with projects, distancing himself in the evenings when everyone is home, and being critical of how others are doing things ). Or are these just coping skills when he feels overwhelmed and not passive aggressive behaviors?

Thanks for your help.