whoa nelly….in going through the past work on my relationship with my sister, I had a major revelation. I always felt sad that we were never best friends, that she was mean and that she did not love and accept me. In going through your questions and writing things out, I realized that during the time this was the case, I was not loving or accepting myself. Crazy looking back on this and knowing what I know now. If had spent all of the time and effort on loving myself vs waiting for her to love and accept me, I would have saved myself so much agony and time. I could have just loved her for who she was and needed nothing from her. wow, I never looked at things this way until now. I also wrote her a letter during the relationship month and things have been better than ever between us. THANK YOU. kw