People aren’t doing it right.

Most of my coaching centers around “people aren’t doing it right/I am not doing it right.” When I want to judge myself or others what should I do? People are inconveniencing me because they are not doing it right. Or I am missing out on opportunities because I didn’t do it right. How do I come to terms with this reality? How do I become better at things if I don’t think that I am doing it wrong?