People pleaser hates asking for help


I am a people-pleaser. I often do things for other people to be polite or because it was difficult to say no.

At the same time, I hate asking for help. The reason is that I don’t want to put them in the position where they feel they have to.

I believe that people would offer me help without asking if they wanted to help. Them not offering help makes me think that they didn’t want to. I know that it might not be true. Maybe they didn’t think I needed help, and if I needed it, I would ask for it.

Model
C: I do not ask for help but expect to be helped.
T: They do not offer help because they do not want to help
F: Offended
A: Deal with my problems myself feeling remorseful
R: not sure