people pleasing

C: My neighbor needed appliance boxes to make an elf on the shelf fort, I had empty ones that I store xmas decorations in (since the decorations are out), I asked her to replace them before Jan 6th. She did not replace them as promised.
T: I knew she wouldn’t do it, she is so selfish, why would I expect anything else from her
F: angry/annoyed
R: upon further reflection, this was an example of people pleasing, I thought by giving her boxes she would like me more (I tried to manipulate her) when in fact I had a rule book for her (she is unreliable) but I still went against my better instinct and gave them to her any way

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