Please check model


C: He yelled at me
T: I made a mistake by marrying him
F: sad
A: passive aggressive, shut down with him, no expectations to join us at park, I didn’t ask where he went, was not interested
R: I created distance with him

C: He yelled at me
T: I don’t love him
F: anger
A: passive aggressive, shut down with him, not share things with him, do work on my own as if he doesn’t exist, don’t ask for help
R: I create distance from him/ I create burden for me and don’t ask for help

Intentional model:

C: He yelled at me
T: I will not tolerate this
F: loved
A: set boundary (“hey, if you continue to talk like this I will walk away”)
R: I created love for myself