Pleasing others instead of being myself…


I have noticed when going through life coaching I find some of my thought processes so hard to change because it’s so well ingrained in me. Of course when I was growing up I didn’t see any of this but now that’s I’m doing this work, I see it in myself and my mom. We both act different around the people we are with in order for them to like us.

I’m a very empathetic person and I can easily pick up on others feelings and it’s really hard for me to be myself around others and not change what I say or do based on what will make them happy. I’m constantly trying to be the person that I think they want me to be. My mom is extremely like this, she even changes her accent around people based on how they speak, which drives me crazy. But even though I can’t stand that she does this I find myself doing these same types of things too. How do I stop doing this? What do I do when I find myself doing this? When I act myself and people don’t like it, how do I stay on track?