Pollyanna take 2

Thank you for your reply- very helpful!

So let’s say you have this situation….husband cheats or lies or over drinks- some main issues I see in the Ask B.
You would recommend running some models with one of these facts in the C line.
There are a million thoughts that could come next.
Say we pick, husband made a mistake and it has nothing to do with me.
This might give a neutral F or something similar and not sure what the A and R would be.

From a neutral place, the idea is you will have a clearer mind to decide what actions you want to take, if any.
Partner could decide I want to stay and find T and F to back this action.
Partner could decide, I don’t want to be married to someone who has these repeated behaviors and take action from this neutral place.

BUT you are saying that you don’t have to say to yourself that my husband is perfect, he’s my best friend, he’s the greatest guy in the world, I am the luckiest person ever!!! This is no big deal!!
The rainbows and daisies here are what might not be believable or necessary thoughts to get through the situation, correct??

Love the SCS crew, thanks for the help!