Preparing to leave marriage

I asked my husband if he had the opportunity to marry me again, would he? No answer. I’m concerned because it wasn’t an immediate yes. But it wasn’t a no. I’m making this period of him not knowing mean that if it’s not a hell yes, it’s a no. The reason I asked him is because he’s felt really disconnected lately and he even told me that a few months ago, he couldn’t find connection with me and consciously decided to disengage. I’m at a loss. I know over the past few years, I’ve disconnected with myself, which most likely made it hard for him to connect with me. I don’t know where to go from here. I want a decision from him because even though I would choose to marry him again in a heartbeat, I don’t want to be married to someone who doesn’t want to be married to me. I told him that I don’t want his reason for staying in the marriage to be because of the kids – they are not my kids. I know he doesn’t want to put them through anything else. Even though I love them very much, I didn’t marry him for his kids. I married him because I love HIM, but if he wouldn’t choose this again, it’s not a want-match.