Problem with relationship with my mom

I had a difficult conversation with my mom today that left me with lots of thoughts and feelings that I’m struggling to process. I did this model but I can’t come up with the results.
c-my mom said, “What’s it worth to you, you have the money.”
t- my mom doesn’t appreciate all I have done for her financially
a-complain to husband, ruminate, overthink, spin on the same thought, set consequences for my mom, short when I talk with her
r-? maybe I don’t respect my mom’s thoughts and decisions or I’m not showing up the way I want to.