Pushing it or just let it be?

Over the years I have struggled to determine when I am pushing too far with something vs. letting it unfold….. I don’t have a great template to figure this out….For example, I had a tip from someone in a neighborhood that I really wanted to move into that a house may be coming up for sale and I hurried up and called my realtor and when I didn’t hear back from her I called the possible listing agent and was able to get a showing before it hit the market. Long story short we got the house, but I sort of felt like I didn’t let things unfold naturally and at times going above and beyond what others may have done with that info……Any ideas would be greatly appreciated.