Question about the "Relationships" homework


I’m doing the Relationships program and I’m struggling with one thing on Day 2.

Once we described and wrote the perfect Manual , it says “Now think about what you would be thinking and feeling if they did all these things perfectly.” Ok done.

But then, it says: “Notice that you can think and feel these things anyway.”
–> Whaaaaat…?! 🙂 How on earth am i supposed to?!

If my husband do the opposite of my manual, how can I manage my mind to go in that happy place?

Thanks a lot for your help!