Question on the Husband Manual

I understand that people get to be who they are. My question is do we have to find a way in our thinking to be happy with who they are.

In the question where the husband walks around town with no shirt, for me I would say that’s fine if that’s who he is but I would not want that so I’d still be having that in my manual. Would this be where I could set a boundary that says, you can do that but lovingly I will not walk around with you when you do.