Question re coaching recording June 29 Brooke coaching

Hi there, listening to the recording of Brooke coaching from June 29th in which the woman’s boyfriend was masturbating to photos of his friends. It wasn’t clear to me from listening to the recording whether this falls under a boundary or a manual.

Brooke talked about her honoring her experience by feeling betrayed because she wanted to feel betrayed and talked about how choosing to think that it’s fun and therefore not be bothered by it was not honoring the reality of her situation. I found this to be somewhat confusing since with the model her feelings come from her thoughts and it seems either thought would be equally “real”.

Can you clarify? Thank you